Attracted to the Wrong Type?
Many of us have had the experience of being attracted to a certain ‘type’ of potential romantic partner.  When involved in a relationship with that ‘type’ it often turns out to be dysfunctional and often heart breaking. While the dysfunctional relationships continue in our lives the very people that can offer us true romance pass through our lives without notice.

Chemistry in Romantic Relationships
Chemistry comes down to desires.  You are attracted to what you desire.  Unfortunately your desires may be more about fantasy than reality.  We use fantasy desires as a way to gain that which is missing from inside of us.  Fantasy desires are coming from your inauthentic self. For example, a 60 year old man who has never married and has no kids is holding out for a romantic relationship with a woman in her mid-twenties to settle down, have a family and grow old together. This same man has passed on many opportunities for wonderful romantic relationships with women closer to his own age.  His fantasy desires are keeping him from living a richer more fulfilling life.

If you can see the truth about yourself and accept who you are, then you would have more functional romantic relationships.  What is required is for you to surrender your attachment to romantic relationships based on fantasies and embrace the journey towards self love.  Keep fantasy as fantasy.

Lack of Self Esteem in Romantic Relationships
When you encounter your heart centered romantic match and you are connected to your heart, your heart will stir.  You must ignore what your mind is telling you.  Your mind is the voice of your ego.  Note that the object of your desire may fail to respond immediately.  They have the choice, as do you, for passing on a potential romantic relationship.  Best to make sure you remain unattached to the outcome of any potential romantic relationship.  Attachment and expectations will always lead to disappointment. Embrace conscious positive choices in your life when it comes to romantic relationships.

Desires
Desires based on what we lack in ourselves are negative desires.  Negative desires can only result in further negativity in your life.  You want to have healthy positive desires in order to find a true romantic relationship.

Important Qualities for you in a Romantic Relationship
The important qualities you desire in a romantic relationship need to be looked at from a heart centered approach.  A heart centered approach to romantic relationships requires you to prepare a list of qualities and review them.  Review them based on an evaluation of heart centered desired qualities versus ego desired qualities.

Knowing when you’ve found Your Romantic Match
When you encounter your heart centered romantic match and you are connected to your heart, your heart will stir. You must ignore what your mind is telling you. Your mind is the voice of your ego. Note that the object of your desire may fail to respond immediately. They have the choice, as do you, for passing on a potential romantic relationship. Best to make sure you remain unattached to the outcome of any potential romantic relationship. Attachment and expectations will always lead to disappointment. Embrace conscious positive choices in your life when it comes to romantic relationships.

This may come as a shock (as it did to me), but you are negative in the core of your being. You may have done years of personal growth work and added many amazing positives to your belief systems. This is all to be praised and applauded. Work well done!! There is just one very LARGE thing that has been missed when discussing personal growth and that is the most basic of human conditions. Humanity has built itself on a negative platform and it has been making changing and growing very difficult.

Ancient Ruins
Let me explain. It took a trip to visit the ancient Mayan ruins at Chichen Itza, Mexico to make this startling discovery. To get to Chichen Itza it took a 3.5 hour drive from Playa del Carmen in a rental car over legendary Mexican roads to reach Chichen Itza in the center of the Yucatan Peninsula. Upon entering the grounds of the site the hair on the back of my neck stood up and a feeling of fear crept over me. I brushed these feelings aside long enough to follow the crowds of tourists to ‘El Castillo’, the major pyramid at the site. While standing in the shadow of this pyramid my thoughts naturally went to the grandeur of this monument and awe for the original builders. Then it struck me that the builders wanted to inspire awe and use it for a more sinister reason.

Sinister Plan
The insight that came to me in that moment was the builders wanted to inspire awe to show the individual that there was something more powerful outside of them. This awe would have created fear in the ancient viewers of these structures. This fear resulted in the viewers giving up their power, their energy and the result was control. The ruin site had the energy of a hierarchy whereby an individual must give up their freedom and submit to those higher up in the pyramid of control. Even today, those visiting the site are getting a refresher course in the energy of humanities legacy of giving up their individual power and freedom.

System of Control
What I also realized is that a system of control requires a convincing story. As you know, humans enjoy stories. A good story allows the listener the opportunity to create their own story from the original story and apply it to their lives. It is this application of a story that creates the illusions that are included in your reality.

On the long drive back to Playa del Carmen my mind began to play with the concepts discovered at Chichen Itza. I knew from my past experiences in viewing the news media that negative stories are what interest people. From just viewing the media alone you would come to the conclusion that something very negative is going on in the world and in people’s minds. In addition, it is well known that humanity is the only species on Earth that is out of sync with their natural environment and is actively destroying it.

Giving up Freedom
Then everything came together and in an instant made sense to me. Humanity has given up its freedom, freewill, liberty, self determination, divinity and its partnership with the Earth. Humanity is individually and collectively unable to follow its heart. Humanity has been polarized to negativity and is kept from positivity by fears. These fears are due to the stories of greater powers outside of ourselves that we have created in our own minds. Even those individuals who are actively promoting ‘truth’ are actually unwittingly feeding into the stories of fear that are keeping humanity stuck in fear and negativity. If there is indeed some group controlling humanity through a conspiracy they would be laughing at having others doing their work so efficiently for them.

Positive Foundation
Humanity will continue to spin its wheels by ignoring the Universal truth that humanity has planted its roots into negativity and those that are attempting to grow positivity from roots in negative soil is simply an illusion and false hope. In order to truly turn this situation around humanity needs to evolve. This evolution needs to take place deep within each person’s heart. By embracing that we are something greater than what is represented by our physical body will bring freedom to humanity. This is the acknowledgement of our divinity.

Good News
Here is how to bring positive change into reality. Each individual must work to switch from a negative platform to a positive foundation. From a positive foundation all positive changes are anchored to a positive foundation. There is no slippage back to negativity.
In order to bring this into reality you must work to clear any issues that are keeping you stuck in the negative.

True hope is the knowing that you are right where you are meant to be in this moment of time. Any other thoughts indicate that you are out of alignment with your true authentic self.  Being your true authentic self in the world requires you to begin to work through the following concepts:

Freewill
Once you have a knowing that freewill is a choice, you are able to flow through life consciously being able to evaluate situations that seek to interfere with your freewill.  Freewill is an important component of freedom.  True freedom is essential to accessing who you truly are.

Heart connection within yourself
A heart connection within yourself is a part of being able to connect you with your path.  Unless there is a connection you will stray from your purpose.

Absolute compassion for self
Absolute compassion for self requires you to accept who you are and where you are at in your life as you are living it.  Anything less keeps you stuck in judgement.

Surrender attachments to the outcome of situations/events in your life
When we always look to control the outcome of events in our lives we stray off our path and into an area where we are forcing our will on the Universe.  A lifetime of this will result in a lack of flow in your life, or you will just give up trying.

Acknowledging your divinity
Divinity, simply put, is that which is beyond the physical.  Unless you accept this part of yourself you will live your life with limitations.

Freeing yourself from false hope spiritual practices
False hope spiritual practices may appear on the surface to be positive, but are based on a negative platform.  A negative platform will bring all the positivity that was experienced back to a negative base and there will be little lasting effect. A negative platform shows itself through control of special knowledge, belief in suffering, control of the behaviours of followers and practicing conditional love, etc.

Taking action
Taking action in your life allows you to explore the concepts mentioned and make the necessary adjustments to keep growing a stronger flow in your life.  Only through action are results obtained. Keep your senses activated to the signs the Universe provides to enable you to take gentle and easy action.

Incorporating positivity into your life
Acting positively in life is the most important single thing you can do.  You can start by beginning a positivity practice and/or begin to clear away issues that keep you from living positively.  Once you begin to flow with positivity you can begin to more easily root out further negativity from your being.

Self determination
Self determination allows you to be the master of your own life. To be fully self determined requires you to work through any influences that are keeping you from believing that your life is yours to live.  Ask yourself what is keeping you from living the life you choose to live and clear accordingly.

By working on these concepts you will begin to take the steps to becoming your authentic self.  The benefits of this are more love, happiness, peace, tranquility, joy and abundance in your life.

In recent travels I have come into contact with many individuals that are in the process of re-inventing themselves. Some have recently left long term relationships. Others may be re-evaluating their next career move or looking at moving to a new geographic location. Some are even questioning the validity of the rules of society under which they have lived their lives. What each person has in common is a search for answers as to what direction to proceed in. They want to feel that their next life changing decision is the right one.

On a deeper level each individual is attempting to connect with their heart, and get an answer they know is right for them. How many of us have agonized over the answers we get when we attempt to connect to our hearts. Sometimes we get an answer one day and a different one the next. What is really going on here?

Most of us have had many experiences of heart ache in our lives. It is this cumulative effect of heartache that leads us to lose trust in our hearts. Once we lose trust we lose that connection with the part that is greater than ourselves – our inner wisdom. Only a healthy connection with our inner wisdom can keep us on our path and allow us to feel that we are living the life we are meant to live.

How can we reconnect to our hearts and our inner wisdom?

In order to reconnect to our hearts we must seek to understand those situations that caused us to lose trust. Was it due to being taken advantage by those we loved? Was it something you saw happen to someone else that was close to you? It is only through self examination of the beliefs that you have created that you can free yourself from the mistrust and come back into trust. The time spent on going inward is time much better spent than going outward to find answers. Re-inventing your life begins in the heart.

Your difficulties in moving forward in life can be often traced to difficulties with the integration of your inner child. Your inner child is suffering. It is suffering from the negativity that the adult world has put on it. The inner child has many exceptional qualities that you are unable to fully tap into because of this negativity.

In order to be able to tap into these exceptional qualities of the inner child, the inner child must be re-invigorated. Some of the qualities of the inner child that you are looking to re-invigorate are; unconditional love, joy, excitement, and wonderment. The steps in the re-invigoration process are:
1. allowing the inner child to be positive
2. re-connect with the inner child qualities you want
3. switch you polarity from negative to positive
4. accept your inner child as a positive part of yourself

Negativity is so prevalent in the world that you can get so used to it and begin the practice of negativity instead of positivity in your life. Stepping into positivity requires you to reconnect with the purpose of why you are here on this planet. Without reconnecting to your divinity there is no real purpose in being positive. Why not just stay negative, it’s easier, you could say. Positivity comes with a connection to that which is above and beyond the physical.

When you are living your divine life you are living the life you are meant to live. The life you are meant to live is a life that is completely free and self determined. A life that is free from attachments to oppressors that are taking your power. Here is a partial list of oppressors that can be used to assist you in living your divine life by allowing you to examine the attachments you have to these oppressors.
1. Marketers
2. Media
3. Society
4. Gender
5. Education system
6. Medical system
7. Geographic borders – countries
8. Monetary system
9. Authority
10. Relationships
11. Genetic heritage
12. Micro-biological organisms

For example, marketers oppress you by telling you that you have a problem that must be fixed. This is oppression. The truth is you are perfect just the way you are and just ‘being’ is good enough. Here is another example, the monetary system. If you have ever felt limited in what you can do creatively to serve humanity because of a lack of money, then you are being oppressed.

In order to live the life you are meant to live, you must be able to free yourself from oppressors and remain well adjusted to this world. Instead of having to fully look at all of the ties you have to all that oppresses you, you simply need to exclude all that oppresses you from your reality. Once you have excluded all oppressors from your reality you only need set boundaries in place. In this way you allow your life to flow free from oppression. The most powerful solution is often the most simple. Unfortunately it often goes unnoticed.

We have been weighed down by erroneous beliefs, dysfunctional paradigms, outside energetic influences and layers of karma. All of this has served to put us in a place where we are unable to see that our liberty is threatened. Liberty is our birthright. We can only give it away to others. It is very important that we safeguard our liberty. Liberty allows us to step into our true selves. Only by stepping into our true selves can we experience unconditional love relationships. Relationships based on unconditional love are free from creating karma. These relationships allow us to create a bond with someone else that goes beyond the physical. It opens up a bond in the high heart, so that anything done in love by one person automatically happens to the other in the unconditional love relationship. This is where we stop being separate and begin to connect to our fellow man/woman. We have to re-discover unconditional love in order to raise our vibration enough to create a new way of being. When we live in unconditional love, we are living in liberty.

We have been hiding our potential. Blindly thinking there are right ways and wrong ways of living our lives. You have hidden talents and skills waiting to be discovered and brought into this reality. Discovering your true talents and skills can bring you to a place of peace, joy and happiness.

You are able to discover your true self when you leave the fears that are keeping you from stepping into this – behind. How do you release these fears? Through the practice of ‘surrender’. This practice works through meditation to find the unhealthy attachments in your life. It could be an attachment to; loneliness, disappointment, lack of self respect, etc.

Simply allow the Universe to take this from you. Allow a knowing that you love and accept yourself where you are at in your life at this time. This is accepting and loving your state of ‘being’.

Do you need to believe certain things about the world in order to safeguard your paradigm? A paradigm is an illusory bubble that all of us create. We create it so we can make sense of the world we live in. Such behaviour is now slowing our evolvement. A paradigm is a limitation we place on ourselves. This limitation guides us in how we can behave in certain situations. Our personal growth can be limited in how it shows up to the world due to an overlying paradigm.

Maybe you recognize yourself in the following example whereby you attend a family gathering. When at the gathering you notice many of the same behaviours you exhibited when you were a teenager. You have done lots of personal growth work, but this behaviour shows up nevertheless.

The dynamic in the example is one of a larger pattern that has been created due to underlying beliefs that were previously present in the past. The paradigm is the memory of a pattern of beliefs that has been flash frozen in your brain. The good news? These paradigms can be cleared away much like beliefs – as long as they are recognized for what they are.

The best way to live is without paradigms. This is when we are truly free. To cutlivate free will requires persistence and committed action. What action are you taking today to get out from under your paradigms?

Surrender is a way we allow the Universe into our lives. This is how we co-create with the Universe. Co-creation is how intentions become reality. What is preventing some of us from participating in this process? Our issues of ‘control’ often get in the way. Control keeps us separate and disconnected; from friends, family, community and the Universe. When a healer has control issues they are doing the healing and they exclude the awesome power of the Universe from the healing. The key here is to find out what you need in order to be able to surrender your ‘control’ to the Universe. Once this is done, you can start to enjoy the benefits of being part of All That Is rather than having to do everything on your own.