Attracted to the Wrong Type?
Many of us have had the experience of being attracted to a certain ‘type’ of potential romantic partner.  When involved in a relationship with that ‘type’ it often turns out to be dysfunctional and often heart breaking. While the dysfunctional relationships continue in our lives the very people that can offer us true romance pass through our lives without notice.

Chemistry in Romantic Relationships
Chemistry comes down to desires.  You are attracted to what you desire.  Unfortunately your desires may be more about fantasy than reality.  We use fantasy desires as a way to gain that which is missing from inside of us.  Fantasy desires are coming from your inauthentic self. For example, a 60 year old man who has never married and has no kids is holding out for a romantic relationship with a woman in her mid-twenties to settle down, have a family and grow old together. This same man has passed on many opportunities for wonderful romantic relationships with women closer to his own age.  His fantasy desires are keeping him from living a richer more fulfilling life.

If you can see the truth about yourself and accept who you are, then you would have more functional romantic relationships.  What is required is for you to surrender your attachment to romantic relationships based on fantasies and embrace the journey towards self love.  Keep fantasy as fantasy.

Lack of Self Esteem in Romantic Relationships
When you encounter your heart centered romantic match and you are connected to your heart, your heart will stir.  You must ignore what your mind is telling you.  Your mind is the voice of your ego.  Note that the object of your desire may fail to respond immediately.  They have the choice, as do you, for passing on a potential romantic relationship.  Best to make sure you remain unattached to the outcome of any potential romantic relationship.  Attachment and expectations will always lead to disappointment. Embrace conscious positive choices in your life when it comes to romantic relationships.

Desires
Desires based on what we lack in ourselves are negative desires.  Negative desires can only result in further negativity in your life.  You want to have healthy positive desires in order to find a true romantic relationship.

Important Qualities for you in a Romantic Relationship
The important qualities you desire in a romantic relationship need to be looked at from a heart centered approach.  A heart centered approach to romantic relationships requires you to prepare a list of qualities and review them.  Review them based on an evaluation of heart centered desired qualities versus ego desired qualities.

Knowing when you’ve found Your Romantic Match
When you encounter your heart centered romantic match and you are connected to your heart, your heart will stir. You must ignore what your mind is telling you. Your mind is the voice of your ego. Note that the object of your desire may fail to respond immediately. They have the choice, as do you, for passing on a potential romantic relationship. Best to make sure you remain unattached to the outcome of any potential romantic relationship. Attachment and expectations will always lead to disappointment. Embrace conscious positive choices in your life when it comes to romantic relationships.

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